I turned 31 a few months ago. Back in my twenties, I've read so many articles about how being a twenty-something is supposed to be fun, carefree, and a time for self-discovery. When you reach your 30s, you'll be more financially stable, your life will be more put together, and what you were trying to find in your twenties; will be all figured out once you reach your thirties. I want to search for the authors who wrote these articles and give them a piece of my mind.
Here I am, this 31 year old, feeling more confused than I ever was about my direction in life. In your early 20s, it was basically a level playing field. Everyone seemed to be going at the same pace when it came to dating, friendships, and careers. Once the late 20s hit, you started to see people separate themselves from the pack. Friends are now married and having children, friends who are single buying huge homes on one income, and old classmates getting the chance to move out of town and have successful careers in some of the top cities in the country, and then you have others, like me, feel like you are at a complete standstill. The decade of your 30s is where many pivotal milestones start to happen for everyone.
I have spent so much of my time and energy lately comparing myself to my peers. If you think about it, we all have probably succeeded already in more ways than one, but we all seem to ignore it and focus more on the things we have not accomplished yet. It's so easy to get caught up in those biological clock timeline discussions with your girlfriends, and stress about being in a mediocre position at work, while your friend is a director at a Fortune 500 company, but trust me, I'm sure there are people that they compare themselves to as well. Remember, no one is perfect, no matter how much it seems to be that way sometimes. I keep forgetting, we are all more alike than we even realize.
Our thirties should be a time to focus on ourselves and what we like to do because all that other stuff that we obsess over in our minds; will eventually fall into place. It will, I promise. Take that trip to Bali you always wanted to go to or take that yoga class you have been meaning to attend but haven't because you're tired from work. Just do it, because all we have in life right now, is the present. If you spend most of your time trying to plan for the future, you'll miss all the beautiful things right in front of you.
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